I’m bummed today, because I just learned that Bookboy is behaving badly at school. It’s not entirely surprising, because he’s one of those boys who, one he transitions into a new situation, responds by getting into trouble. I’d been pleasantly surprised that, at this new school, I hadn’t heard anything, and attributed this to his increasing maturity. Now I’ve discovered that he seems to have been having ongoing problems and I deeply resent the fact that no one bothered to let me know, waiting instead until it reached a (thankfully minor) crisis. I’m now running around trying to gather more information so that I can put together a plan. He’s still quite a little boy, so I’m not seriously worried (we’re not talking drugs or crime), but I believe in nipping problems in the bud and don’t appreciate having been denied that opportunity.
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I’m sorry your child is acting out.
Too bad not all adults are good role models to counter-act various types of childish behavior.
So it seems your Plan — using the “nipping problems in the bud” approach — probably doesn’t include storming into the school and blaming the teacher/administration. How quaint — and why am I not surprised? Best wishes.
Good luck, Bookworm.
I think the key to understanding his bad behavior is to figure out what is motivating him to do so. Bad behavior is often committed because it provides the culprit with a small sense of increased power. It can increase in response to a power decreasing situation like attending a new school or some other insecurity causing situation.
If his history is to act up during new transitions and then to settle down, then this little episode will also likely pass. If this is an ongoing issue with him then there may be an ongoing insecurity causing stimulus in his life. In any event most boys simply outgrow this type of behavior.
Another angle you may want to consider is that some believe that in the politically correct school environment these days, boys are often faced with a certain level of anti boy bias. Such bias can create friction when boys react to it. Again this is someone’s theory and I don’t know if it is valid or not.
Reid, oh Book has written about the subj of your last paragraph all right.
At least he gets into trouble for things he does. Imagine if he got into trouble for things he didn’t do.
All sentient beings must have some control over their environment, or they become mildly unhinged. It takes a while to learn the lay of the land in any new situation, and little ones may go against the new grain initially.
Being a parent is the second most difficult job there is.
Good luck, BW
Al
Bummed er I mean sung to the lyrics of Harper Valley P.T.A
I want to tell you all a story,bout a blogging Calfiornia wife.
Well her son came home one afternoon and didn’t even stop to play.
The note said “Bookie” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
And it’s reported you’ve been blogging and a writin with DQ and losin child.
And we don’t beleive you ought to bringing your little boy up that way.”
IT WAS SIGNED BY THE SECRETARY,CALIFORNIA P.T.A.
Well,it happened that the P.T.A was gonna meet that very afternoon.
They were surprised when Mrs.Bookworm brought her laptop into the room.
And as she walked up to the blackboard,I still recall the words she had to say.
She said,”I’d like to address the meeting of the California Valley P.T.A.
Well,this just a little Leftist Place and you’re all California communists.”
No I wouldn’t put you on because it really did,it happened just that way.
The day our Bookie socked it to the California P.T.A.
The day our Bookie socked it to the California p.T.A
Let me pose the following question to you, Book: would you be happier with a child that was perfectly behaved, perfectly obedient and unfailingly nice – always? What kind of adult would he make?